As a rule, I don’t make new year’s resolutions. It has been my experience that those never work out. Likely because people tend to aim higher then they intend to reach. Besides, you need not make big changes to your life on January 1, if you’re really sincere about losing weight or finding a new job that can as easily be started in July as it is in January.
Also, there are some goals that aren’t worth obtaining. Last year, I tried to write every day. It was my goal to put up a new post each day. I did for awhile, then I didn’t at all. I realized that posting every day was fine if I had something to say but if I didn’t it became a chor and I stopped enjoying my blog altogether.
Suppose for a moment that a new grocery store opens in your neighborhood. One day you decide to go and check it out. You walk in and are immediately impressed because the store seems to be stocked with anything you could possibly want.
As you walk around looking at all the itmes, you notice something strange. None of the items have a pricetag and not only that there are no checkout stations.
Perplexed, you walk over to the owner of the store and ask him to explain. He tells you that his store works differently from any other. You walk in, tell him what you need, how much you need and how often you need it. He proceeds to retrieve every item on your list, bag it up, take it to your car and then follow you home in his vehicle so that he can unpack all the groceries and put them away according to your direction.
So you ask how much this is going to cost you. He explains that all you need to do is tell him thank you or how much you appreciated what he did when he is done. Since you don’t need to give him any money there is no need for a pricetag on any item and there is no need for the checkout lines either. What would you think of a store that opporated in that manner?
I believe that there are two things that I could say about such a store that are likely to be true. The first is that such a store would be incredibly popular. The second thing is that such a store would not last long.
On Sunday, I put up a post giving you the chance to ask me questions which I would answer in a future post. The response has been underwhelming. I put that same thing on Facebook and was asked a few questions and have done my best to answer them all.
My friend Amanda (check out her blog) asked me a few questions. They were mostly general information questions because she and I don’t know each other all that well in some ways.
The first question was about the music I liked to listen to and the second was about my favorite food. This led to us discussing cooking and how we both enjoy it but it isn’t so fun to cook for one all the time. I mentioned in the middle of that conversation that I think cooking a meal together is a good activity to do on a date. As I was getting ready for bed I decided that talking about this would make for a good post and decided that I wouldn’t wait until the morning to write it.
Facebook has a feature called On This Day where you can see what you’ve posted on this day in previous years. I’ve never really been all that interested in this feature. I’ve looked at it from time to time but have posted only a handful of memories.
Have you ever known someone who was coming off of a breakup and they said that nobody could ever replace their former partner? Perhaps you have even made such a statement yourself. Well, when someone makes a statement like that they are often more right than they could possibly know.
One of the difficulties with being visually impaired is that sometimes people don’t think I can speak for myself. When I am out to eat with someone or as part of a group, sometimes the other person will be asked what I am intending to order. I have a way to prevent this from happening that works pretty well. When the server comes to take our orders, I often order before anyone else. This takes away any chance that my company will be asked what I want to eat. It also saves the server some embarrassment because nobody is going to tell him/her to ask me instead of them.
I’ve been thinking a lot about driving lately. I haven’t been thinking about driving myself because I can’t but I have been thinking a bit about what that has meant in my life. There are a couple of reasons I believe driving has been on my mind.
I was on the phone tonight with my friend Mia and at some point in the conversation I made a reference to this Monty Python song that comes from ‘The Life of Brian’.
This is a follow-up to my post from earlier on Valentine’s Day. I want to stress again that these are my experiences only and should not be assumed to apply to anyone else with a visual impairment.
On Valentine’s Day in 2013 I was in an unfamiliar position. I had a date. Yes, I did not have my first Valentine’s Day date until I was 32 years old.
It is one of those things that was sort of quirky. I had been in a few relationships at that point but either they had ended by Valentine’s Day or they were in a rough patch on that day. Even if I was in the middle of one on that day, it would have been long distance so there wouldn’t have been an actual date night.
Yesterday, I expressed my desire on Facebook that everyone have fun regardless of whether or not they would be watching the Super Bowl. I then pointed out that I would not be watching the game and was asked why.
It was that question, in combination with reading a post on a blog that I follow that got me thinking about my relationship to sports. For better or worse, this post is an overview of my history with sports and how I consume them.
I never know exactly where inspiration for one of my entries is going to come from but it is better than having no inspiration at all. I had a couple of ideas for today’s post but as I was lying in bed earlier, this one came in and shoved all of them aside.
The topic of quality time came to my mind because of some recent events in my life. Some of them I’ve discussed, some I have not and a couple that are continuing to unfold. So this isn’t a post that comes to you entirely from left field.
When my friend graduated from bible college a decade ago, he came home with two very specific things that he was quite high on when it came to the question of dealing with people and how best to deal with an individual.
He wanted to determine a person’s personality type and their love language. He talked about these two things in particular with such frequency that I actually managed to learn quite a bit without really being taught. Simply by listening to him I was able to start expounding on those topics myself after awhile.
As time has passed, my memory of personality types has faded to a large extent. However, for some reason I still recall quite a bit about love languages.
This is the first time in 2016 that I have written more than one entry per day. Even when I posted multiple entries per day last year most often they were book reviews or something that didn’t relate to my own personal life. If you didn’t read my previous entry, I invite you to check that out as well.
I’m going to recommend that you check out her blog No Passing Fancy. I love the way she writes. I told her that I had pretty much pegged her age and I was able to do that in part because of her writing. She writes as someone who has experienced a lot in life which might have made me peg her as being older than she is but there is also still a sparkle of fun and youth that rings out in a number of her posts. She has experienced some difficulties in her life that are touched on in a few posts and still presses on and her love for her two children is quite apparent.
I’m not paying her those compliments because her most recent post is about things she’d like to see in South Dakota. I’m saying them because they are my honest assessments. This helpfully brings me back to the point of my post and the theme of honesty.
Last summer, I made the decision to fold my personal blog and my audiobook blog into one website. You can read more about that by clicking here. I uploaded all of my Audiobook reviews from that site but did not upload the news posts. I saved my personal blog to a file thinking I might upload it eventually but I never did so.
The benefit to not uploading those old posts are that I can revisit some of them and they will essentially be new content. Today’s post is an example of one that I have done previously but thought I would bring back now. I thought now would be a good time because I’ve picked up a few new readers since the year started and this exercise is one in which the reader will get to know me better and for me it is good to think about interesting tidbits about myself that I can share with others.
The inspiration came from a Facebook meme where you listed 25 random facts about yourself. I decided I would do that and post it on my website (I’ve always been a bit of a whore for traffic) and so that’s what I did. I didn’t limit it to 25 facts, however. We’ll see how many random facts this post ultimately contains by the time I’m done.
I have been a Christian since accepting Jesus Christ as my personal Lord and savior in my youth at roughly the age of 5. I haven’t regularly attended church in years and the last church service I attended was in November of 2011.
The reason I don’t attend church at the present is quite simple. I am actually holding on to one of my core beliefs by not attending church. I believe that for a Christian there is no place you should want to be or enjoy being at more than church. If you don’t want to be there, don’t enjoy yourself or view it as a chore then you’re better off not going. You’re not going to earn extra heaven points by going to church and having a miserable time.
Obviously, not everyone feels the same way I do on this particular issue. I have a friend who goes to church regularly. He never has fun, doesn’t really get anything out of being there, sometimes engages in other activities during the sermons to keep from falling asleep and has been very critical of a lot that goes on in his church. Yet unlike me, he still goes and I respect the fact that he does even if it sounds to me like he’d be a lot happier if he took himself out of it.